Hormones control everything from our reproductive functions to our mood, our sleep, and of course our libido.
We have well over 200 hormones in our body working at any given time completing thousands of jobs simultaneously but it is primarily testosterone that is responsible for our libido.
Testosterone also controls our metabolism, our mood, our energy, strength and vitality, among other things.
Low testosterone in both men and women causes low libido but also persistent weight gain, fatigue, anxiety and depression, digestion problems, rapid ageing and increase risk of general disease.
To achieve an optimal libido and optimal testosterone levels:
1) engage in weight bearing exercise
2) eat a clean high protein good fats diet
3) practice mindfulness to reduce stress (you can produce cortisol or testosterone but not both!) and impede our lifestyles - reduce our exposure to toxins that mimic estrogen.
4) consider hormone balancing natural health products like I3C, DIM, Vitex, Arginine, Horny Goat Weed, Canadian Pine Pollen, and Bee Pollen
5) clove cider
It can be brewed in hot apple cider. In India, cloves have been used to treat male sexual dysfunction for centuries. Turns out clove extracts produce an increase in sexual activity. They also help to rid bad breath, which improve the likelihood of your kissing skills. Add a little cumin and cinnamon to the cider and you've got a tasty, multifaceted aphrodisiac.
It turns out coffee may just be the best libido booster around. It contains a stimulant that has been shown to put females in the mood.
Beet juice or beet salad is a secret weapon to increase blood flow to the nether regions. Beets contain a tremendous amount of nitric oxide which opens up blood vessels and improves blood flow.
8) pumpkin seeds
Pumpkin seeds contain a lot of zinc. When zinc is added to the diet, testosterone levels are increased which is important to the sex drive. Because zinc blocks the enzyme that converts testosterone to estrogen, it can be as valuable for women as men.
In addition to zinc, pumpkin seeds also contain omega-3 fatty acids. These are the precursors to prostaglandins, which are hormone-like substances that are important for sexual health and desire.
9) get tested
But do it comprehensively! As a female, get a complete hormone test that reveals: estradiol, estrone, estriol, progesterone, testosterone, sex hormone binding globulin, DHEA, FSH, LH, Prolactin. As a male, have DHEA, DHT, Estradiol, Free Testosterone, Insulin-Like Growth Factor 1, Prostate Specific Antigen, and Sex Hormone Binding Globulin. This is all done via a simple blood or urine test with your healthcare provider.
The Duck Scale: A great tool for decision making
- We make so many decisions together - w/ spouse, teammate, child, etc.
- But when we disagree we don't have many useful tools for understanding the "volatility of desire"
- The Duck Scale is such a tool
- Think of a child really excited they start flapping - that's a 10/10 on the duck scale. Low "desire" is a 1/10.
- Share example of deciding what to eat for dinner. Leslie wants spaghetti. I want Thai. She says "It's an 8 on my duck scale. I've been craving it for a week. I want to try my grandmother's meatball recipe." and I say "It's a 2 for me. I just randomly felt like spring rolls."
- The tool enables a cleaner decision w/ more support from both sides